Learning that I carry a BRCA mutation, and thus subsequently am at high risk for both breast and ovarian cancer, brought a maelstrom of emotional baggage along with it. Shock and confusion, in the early days. Being me, I plunged into research, tying to learn everything I could about this topic. Books, websites, materials from the genetic counselor… That in turn resulted in emotional and mental overload. I often fell into the dreaded downward Google spiral, overwhelmed by too much information flowing over me to properly process what I read. Turning off the computer, the statistics and questions still ricocheted through my exhausted brain.
Looking back from my perspective now, three years later, what helped me get through that challenging time? Other than the obvious (and very important) support of family and friends, that is.
First, talking with a genetic counselor was crucial and saved me from myself. When I needed a respite from my over-active mind, I focused on their words and advice.
The genetics counselors said that for me – then 47– surgery to remove my ovaries and fallopian tubes (BSO) was the immediate priority. So, focus on getting that organized and the rest could come with time. Having just accompanied my mother on her wrenching ovarian cancer journey, seeing first hand the rigors of her treatment and recovery, they didn’t have to say much to convince me.
For my breast cancer risk, I had choices. Either a prophylactic bilateral mastectomy (PBM) or a high-risk screening program. Both were medically valid. Both had pros and cons. (More about the details of this decision to follow in a later post.) I decided to do enhanced surveillance (breast MRI in June and mammogram/ultrasound in December.) The genetics team also mentioned the possibility of chemoprevention, with tamoxifen or a similar drug, but I put that to the side for the time being.
Secondly, the genetics team referred me to two tremendous sources of support – a therapist who had experience working with BRCA issues, and FORCE (the national non-profit that supports individuals and families affected by hereditary breast and ovarian cancer.)
I met weekly with the therapist over about a five-month period. I’d never had any therapy previously – perhaps I could have benefitted from it at times, but had never actually made it happen. My experience was so positive that I would not hesitate to access similar help in the future when I feel the need. Getting professional help and taking the time to process all the issues that come with a BRCA+ test result was tremendously empowering.
And last but not least, FORCE… The website at http://www.facingourrisk.org/ provided a wealth of information. To this day I refer to it often. There are message boards where people share their questions and stories and support one another (though in the early days I found I could only dip my toe into those waters – if I went too far or too long it was overwhelming for me). There are local FORCE support groups. I signed up to get emails from the San Francisco Bay Area group, though with our relocation to Austin I never ended up connecting with them in person. Several years later I attended the FORCE national conference with my husband, where I learned an incredible amount about state-of–the-art research results as well as connecting with many women facing similar issues.
Several years later into my BRCA journey, I discovered Facebook groups where I have found virtual – but very real – support. I am grateful for groups like BRCA Sisterhood, Previvors, Beyond the Pink Moon, Learn About HBOC, and BRCA Advanced 101 & 102.
Now, three years and three months after getting the paperwork stating that I carry a “deleterious BRCA mutation,” I am far from the constant state of mental and emotional overload that I once inhabited. Concerns and issues still arise, certainly, and this aspect of our genetic heritage will continue to affect me and my family into the future. But I have made it through the initial days of wondering how – and whether – I could cope.
I know many women are out there, walking a similar path. But sometimes the voices of those doing high-risk breast surveillance get lost in the shuffle, overshadowed by the complicated issues presented by the PBM option. And sometimes the key issue of ovarian cancer risk is forgotten by the media, in discussions of this “breast cancer gene.” So now I hope to provide the same support and informational help to others that I have benefitted from, in this land of “Elevated Risk.”