Telling All of Our Stories

This is not the blog post I was planning to write this week.  But Monday morning my Facebook newsfeed was full of links to a wonderful piece featuring the portraits and stories of 15 women, BRCA-positive previvors and survivors, as part of their Breast Cancer Awareness Month (BCAM) coverage.   See it at

Bringing attention to issues around hereditary breast and ovarian cancer and BRCA mutations – and supporting affected people and families – is one of my passions.  It’s why I volunteer for and donate to the national non-profit group FORCE, Facing Our Risk of Cancer Empowered.  And it’s a big part of why I write this blog.   So I was thrilled to see the piece.  The individual pictures and narratives were compelling and inspiring.  But looking through the gallery, I couldn’t help but realize that not every BRCA story was included.  And it is important to tell all of our stories.

My story was missing, as well as that of any previvor (BRCA carrier who hasn’t yet had cancer) who has chosen something other than mastectomy to deal with her heightened breast cancer risk.  (With the Breast Cancer Awareness Month emphasis, they didn’t focus on BRCA+ women like my mother who have had ovarian cancer or like me who have had our ovaries removed.  Perhaps that could be another story, another month.  I will focus here on breast cancer as well.)

All the featured women had done prophylactic bilateral mastectomies (PBM).

Do all BRCA+ women have mastectomies to reduce their risk?  If so, the piece would be representative.  Is it our only medically supported option?  If so, the story’s focus would make sense.

But the answer to both those questions is “No.”  Many women, the majority in fact, do not have a PBM but instead choose enhanced, high risk breast surveillance (often mammogram and breast MRI, alternately, every 6 months.)  Some women also choose chemoprevention with Tamoxifen or other drugs.  It is an individual choice, as Angelina Jolie said so eloquently in her piece about “My Medical Choice.”  And many women make medically valid choices to do something other than a PBM.  But their stories were not included in the otherwise impressive article.


I am BRCA+ and am doing enhanced screening for my breast cancer risk.  (I had my ovaries and fallopian tubes removed, to reduce my ovarian cancer risk, because there is currently no good screening for ovarian cancer and I was done having children.)  But my story – and that of many, many women like me – was missing.

It appears, from researching various sources, that perhaps about 25-30% of BRCA+ women who haven’t yet had cancer choose to have a PBM.  Which would mean, obviously, that 70-75% of them don’t.  Regardless of the exact number, that is a lot of stories that were left out.

Comments on the piece on their website called out some other missing perspectives, noting that it didn’t include any women of color or any men.  Good points.  We want to include everyone’s story, of all colors and both genders.

BRCA-positive men, especially those with a BRCA2 mutation, have an increased risk of breast cancer as compared with the general population, with about a 6% risk of getting the disease.  (They face some other increased risks as well – prostate cancer, for example, but this story was focused on breast cancer so I am as well.)  It would have been great to have a man with breast cancer included in the gallery.

Several of the featured women were pictured with their daughters, with the implicit understanding that these daughters were potentially at increased risk because of their genetic heritage.   Daughters of  BRCA+ parents have a 50/50 chance of having their parent’s mutation.  But men can be BRCA+ too, and can pass their mutation down to their children.  For example, I have three sons.  They also have a 50/50 chance of inheriting my BRCA mutation.

So it was a wonderful article.  But it didn’t include all of the stories of those affected by hereditary breast and ovarian cancer.  And we can do better.

Why does it matter?  Why is it important?

First, humans share a need to be seen and understood.  We need to include everyone in the BRCA community in such a story.  We don’t want anyone to feel excluded, left out, or somehow “wrong.”

Secondly, we need to make sure that women with a family history suggesting hereditary breast and ovarian cancer, but who haven’t yet been tested for a BRCA mutation, know that they have options.  Choosing to be tested doesn’t mean that you must automatically have a mastectomy.  We don’t want women who know in advance that they wouldn’t want to have a PBM to feel that therefore there is no point for them to be tested.

Thirdly, we don’t want women to feel pressured to choose a PBM, overwhelmed by the weight of the media attention to that choice.  Both choices are medically appropriate and it is a very individualized decision, dependent on many personal factors.


The experience of high-risk breast screening is not as media-genic or dramatic as is prophylactic mastectomy.  Having a PBM involves a limited time period and a certain number of defined events.  Surveillance is a long, continuing string of undramatic moments – for me, it is mammogram and ultrasound in December, breast MRI in June, with occasional false (so-far) positive findings and attendant follow-up biopsies.  Every year, into the future.  And chemoprevention for me is taking a Tamoxifen pill every day.  Not as dramatic as a PBM, but I am a previvor too, and part of the BRCA community as are the many others who have not chosen mastectomy.

Let’s tell all of our stories.  Perhaps we need a sequel…


4 thoughts on “Telling All of Our Stories

  1. How right you are!

    As I wrote to a friend recently: “Every­one comes to the BRCA table with their own ques­tions and bag­gage based on their own family history and where they are in their lives. In some fam­i­lies, ovar­ian can­cer prevails…in other fam­i­lies it is breast can­cer. In some fam­i­lies, it is both. It is a tough place to be and each per­son takes a dif­fer­ent path to the deci­sions that are right for her. Some women have mas­tec­tomies prior to hav­ing chil­dren, decid­ing that it’s bet­ter to give up the abil­ity to breast­feed know­ing that they’ll be around to watch their chil­dren grow up. Oth­ers com­plete their fam­i­lies quickly so that they can move on to the pro­phy­lac­tic surg­eries, while still oth­ers opt for sur­veil­lance for years and years, and don’t ever have surgery. Some remove their ovaries and not their breasts, oth­ers do just the opposite. Our decisions are as individual as we are…please do not judge us.”

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